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Today many of us need a dose of reality.  Some want to be out of credit card debt.  Others want to lose weight.  Still others are thinking about other goals.  Getting started may be the hardest part — getting the ball rolling, that is.  However, once the ball is rolling, when we have set inertia in motion, some of us become frustrated by the s l o w pace of our progress.

When we become frustrated there are a few things to remember.  For those with too much credit card debt or too much weight or any of us who are trying to undo something we must remember that we did not create the problem overnight.  And, more importantly we are not going to remedy the situation overnight.

Perhaps, many of us need to temper our expectations.  This is not to say that we are diminishing our goals or dreams.  But, in reality we need to consider that all too often we expect an instant fix.  There really isn’t one.  Some who have seen “The Secret” or read the book seem to believe that if we think about what we want — send the thought out into the universe — suddenly it will appear.  There are stories about those people who decided to do something one day and POOF! the next day, it was theirs.  Well, I’m going to have to say that in all my years of experience I have never seen anyone wish for something, only to have the doorbell ring the next moment, a delivery man standing there asking you to sign for the fulfillment of your wish.  Maybe in a fairy tale.  But, this is real life.

Rather than becoming frustrated because your last wish or desire did not manifest immediately, invest time and energy working toward your goals, you desires.  When you point yourself in the right direction, things begin to happen.  Maybe it is awareness.  Maybe it is because we are looking for solutions rather than rehashing the problems.

Whatever your goal, if you have followed the seven criteria for goal setting, you goal can be accomplished.  Please note the use of the word “accomplished.”  This indicates that you have to engage in activities that will lead to your success.

All that said, frustration is a natural reaction to our shortcomings or delays.  We all have days when we are ready to throw up our hands.  But, as my mother used to say, “Rome wasn’t built in a day.”  It will take more than a day to accomplish your goals.  I look at those days of setbacks and frustrations as tests.  Maybe the universe is testing you to see if you are really serious about achieving your goals.  Who knows?

The point is that all too often after we name our goals, we expect immediate results — sometimes without work.  Most of life does not happen overnight.  Success in life takes time and effort.  So, when becoming frustrated with your progress, take a step back — maybe a day off.  Regenerate your enthusiasm, not so much toward the goal, but toward the effort you are willing to put into the accomplishment.

I firmly believe anything in life is possible.  But, I also believe that few things in life just fall into our laps following a wish.  Temper your expectations.  You may plug along at first, but as you work towards your destination you will discover that you are moving faster and faster.  In fact, once we reach our goals most of us look back and think how fast we accomplished our desires.  Do not forget that so very often the journey is far more exciting than we thought it would be.  Enjoy the work.  Enjoy the journey.  You will appreciate the destination.